I feel like my world is slowly falling apart-one bad thing after another, and I don’t know how to deal with it?

June 1st, 2010

8 Ball asked:


Thank for trying to help me.

Here’s my background info: I’m 34, I live with my parents, no wife or kids, have a part-time job, and have 2,000 in credit card debt that I’m trying to pay off within the next two months.

O.K., here’s what’s been going on in my life:
Everything was going fine until about two months ago. Some unexpected expenses had to be paid, and the only money I had to pay with were my credit cards. The debt has been slowly increasing. Then, just as I started a new job that I got last month, some moderate anxiety/depression/quasi-panic attack symptoms began appearing. Since then, I’ve become increasingly paranoid about most everything. My sleep is awful now, which intensifies my anxiety during the day.

Then, I went to my dentist to have a simple chipped molar bonded. She insisted upon filling the tooth, and during the procedure she ground too much off of my lower-left molars, which has caused my teeth to not fit correctly. As a result, I have been having severe TMJ (TMD) jaw and ****** pain, and I cannot eat many of the things I did a mere few weeks ago. I recently went back to the dentist because the pain was so bad, and told her that I needed to have an adjustment made on the teeth, and that I suspected that the misalignment was causing the symptoms of TMJ and the ****** pain. This dentist said that there was nothing that could be done, and that she didn’t see anything wrong. However, when the dentist had me bite down on the colored paper in order to see where the teeth were hitting one another, the upper and lower teeth were not touching where I suspect she ground too much during the procedure. I was given a prescription for Soma and Vicoden, and told
that I could be referred to one of the dentist’s colleagues for a second evaluation.

Distraught, I took the advice of my former orthodontist, went back to the dentist to request an adjustment on my teeth, and after getting nowhere with the dentist who botched the work, I went to a lawyer who represented me several years ago. After telling him about the pain that I have been in and how the dentist screwed up, he then casually mentions that one of his best friends is the spouse of this dentist, and that my chances of winning such a lawsuit were not very good simply because the burden of proof would be too high, and that the legal fees for such a case would be too expensive.

So now my damn teeth no longer feel right and my jaw hurts, and it appears that i have screwed up by going to the wrong lawyer!

I feel anxious and uncomfortable all of the time. I can’t see how I can continue feeling like this anymore. Could you please offer me some advice. I don’t know how to deal with it, and have prayed about it so many times. I do not know what else to do, and feel like I am losing my sanity.

I know that numerous people, especially strangers, have been looking at me like I am crazy lately. They look at me like I’m a freak. All of this is driving me crazy. I wish that none of this crap was happening to me right now – - that I could simply turn back the clock four months ago, and start over again.

All the best.

Geri

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