Mom doesn’t listen me when I talk to her about anxiety?
May 13th, 2010
hey 
asked:
I know for a fact I have anxiety but until recently I didn’t what I had was. I tried to talk to my mom ’bout it but she just says, oh its just a phase, or, I think you have a very mild case. Well, it’s more than mild and I tried to tell her that but she just blows me off. I can tell she also thinks that I just want the pills so that I can “abuse” them..but that couldn’t be any farther from the truth. I think the reason she thinks that I want them for recreational use is because she caught me smoking marijuana recently and now she thinks i’m a druggie! I just want to cure this because I think I would be A LOT happier if I had this under control. How can I get my mom to listen to me about this because now she just thinks I want pills to get high. It makes me sad that she can’t trust me.
asked: I know for a fact I have anxiety but until recently I didn’t what I had was. I tried to talk to my mom ’bout it but she just says, oh its just a phase, or, I think you have a very mild case. Well, it’s more than mild and I tried to tell her that but she just blows me off. I can tell she also thinks that I just want the pills so that I can “abuse” them..but that couldn’t be any farther from the truth. I think the reason she thinks that I want them for recreational use is because she caught me smoking marijuana recently and now she thinks i’m a druggie! I just want to cure this because I think I would be A LOT happier if I had this under control. How can I get my mom to listen to me about this because now she just thinks I want pills to get high. It makes me sad that she can’t trust me.
And also, therapy does not help so that would not be an option.
WANLUCK
Categories: Mental Health | Tags: Sad, Smoking Marijuana, Truth
Mary
perhaps telling her that anti-anxiety pills do not make a person “high” or hearing it from a doctor may help. if you dont control your anxiety you may develop depression. i do not know what type of anxiety you have, when i was 21 i suffered health anxiety myself, im now in my final months of med school and fine now, i controlled mine with lexotan 1.5mg they are gentle relaxers and do not altar the mind in any way they just relax muscles and relieve tension. other than that i find it very unusual that she wont listen to her own child about a potentially life altaring condition. read up on anxiety and try to talk to her again. or visit a doctor and ask him for relaxers
Amber
Well using pot definitely messed things up.
Therapy doesn’t help? How long have you been in treatment? With a psychologist or psychiatrist?
Many people who cannot tolerate pills have major problems with anxiety. They learn to cope by using relaxation techniques, deep breathing, visual imagery.
If you go and see a psychiatrist, and are diagnosed with an anxiety disorder, in which you cannot function without medication, that will be the only way to convince mom.
Candy
There are ways you can treat anxiety disorder yourself.
Sounds like mom isn’t very supportive… this could have a lot to do with your anxiety.
Try this website. It is full of useful information about anxiety and self treatment. Give it a shot.
BTW .. no therapy will help unless you make a continuous effort at it … but what most therapists fail to tell you is the science behind their therapies. Counselors are there to be a shoulder to cry on while you make your own treatment plan.
this website was created by someone who has been there and done that.
Me.
Zach
Stop trying to diagnose yourself and go see a doctor. Then you and your mom will know for sure.
Derrius
Picture this: You sit your mother down, and say you need to talk to her. You say that your anxiety is a very real problem for you, and it hurts when she blows you off, or says its just a phase, or its not a problem (be sure to cite specific instances of behavior). And what you made up about her behavior was that she doesn’t care about you, or she is selfish, or that she thinks you are just trying to escape life and get high on legal pills(or what ever motives you think she has for doing this hurtful action). And that you would appreciate an apology and what specific steps she should take to remedy this offense, like schedule a doctor visit to talk about your symptoms.